As you know, I turned 30 two weeks ago. Of course I had to celebrate, but how? At first I hoped for the extravagant: dress codes and dance floors, rented urban spaces and mountains of themed decorations. I think I was trying to live up to some kind of standard of “the kind of party a cool 30-year-old would have,” but the more I thought about it, the more I wanted to just ignore my birthday altogether. I finally realized that, although I love dancing and dressing up, I have so little experience with planning big ‘dos that it would be impossible for me to actually enjoy myself if I had one; I’d only be fretting over whether everything was amply spectacular and all the guests wowed by the perfection of splendor. After much pondering, in lieu of a fancy bash, I opted for a laid-back day with friends, food, and a nice mix of indoor/outdoor time. It was the perfect thing and I had a wonderful time.
(All photos below are from my youngest sister Allison. Thanks, Al! 🙂 )
We started with an easy walk around China Camp State Park in San Rafael. We didn’t get to see the actual old Chinese fishing camp, but we did spot some mushrooms, lichens, and beautiful manzanitas (called “refrigerator trees” because the smooth bark is always cool to the touch).
After our walk, we headed over to the fabulous San Rafael farmers’ market, where we ate lunch and picked up supplies for the party.
In the early afternoon, we returned over the Richmond Bridge to our house, and spent the rest of the day feasting and chatting, drinking mulled cider and ginger-citrus “beer.”
Earlier this month, I wrote that I’d been feeling lonely, but this birthday has reminded me that in spite of the essential loneliness of our individuality, I’m blessed with many loving friends and a close-knit family. Much love to all of you who came to the party (hi Anna! 🙂 ) or sent birthday wishes in any way. What an incredible way to celebrate my three decades of existence. I love you all so much.