Happy Friday, dears and darlings, and welcome to the Open Mic! If you’re new here, on Fridays we get together here for some chat. (Sometimes there’s a guest artist instead.) The topic varies from week to week, but everyone is welcome to participate in the comments.
Today I’m thinking about crushes and attraction. I’m the first to admit that I have a crush-y sort of personality. I’m easily swept away. My crushes are obsessive, but not necessarily romantic-sexual; I can feel the same consuming fascination for a perfume as I do for an individual, and when it comes to people, I can be excited about someone without wanting to partner with them.
I’ve been thinking about common qualities among the people who fascinate me, and I think I’m beginning to understand what draws me. I observe that it’s not the same for men and for women, so I’d like to pose to you two questions adapted from the Proust Questionnaire:
What qualities do you find most attractive in a man? What qualities attract you most in a woman?
Feel free to interpret attraction however you like: romantic, sexual, intellectual, whatever.
See you in the comments!